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What you can do to have better dating success
No Bad Dates!
Copyright © 2004, Devlyn Steele
"Successful Dating"
Do a Google search for "dates from hell", and you just might
crash their servers. There are tons of websites devoted to
subject. One described a guy who talked about his ex-
girl friend all night, then drove by his ex's house a few times
because he was "concerned for her welfare". Another told the story
of agirl who made another date for later that evening, over her
cell phone, during dinner. I'm sure you have a few war stories
of your own. You know what I think?
There are no bad dates.
"No bad dates??" you'd tell me. "You've obviously never spent an
evening with Mr/Ms. X who thought the silverware was speaking to
them…in Klingon". Maybe not, but so long as you were not in any
danger or got hurt in any way, it wasn't that bad. It probably
only lasted a few hours, and you must have found some humor in
that person across the table, waiting for the mothership. Cross
Captain Kirk off of your list and chalk it up to a learning
experience.
The important thing is to not get discouraged and give up on
dating completely. Stick with it, and keep looking to make that
connection. Here are three quick tips:
Release yourself from expectation.
Never "expect" your date to be "the one", no matter how cute
or nice they are initially. You set the date up to be a disaster
by your unrealistic expectations. It creates undue pressure and
leads you on a scavenger hunt for faults in the other person.
Relax, enjoy the process, and don't focus on an "end result" that
you have invented for yourself.
It's all about attitude! Your mindset is what determines the
quality of any experience. If you approach your date with a good
attitude, there are no bad dates. Each experience is a step
towards finding the person that is right for you.
Go out on as many dates as possible.
The way to that right person is through a lot of not-the-right
persons. The more dates you have, the more opportunities you make
for yourself. Mr. or Ms. Right will not come knocking on your door
while you are watching TV. Date, date and then date some more, the
process is the answer.
Meet many people that might be possible dates.
A positive dating attitude gives you endless opportunities to
meet the right person.
Don't rule out any method or avenue, and try them all: speed
date, people at the gym, through friends, or online - even Aunt
Millie's set up. Do it all!
The Internet is fast becoming one of the best and most
accepted ways to meet people. They call it online dating, but it
should really be called online meeting, since you don't actually
date until you physically get together. It is, however, a melting
pot of interesting people and opportunities. There are ways to
meet people online safely and with great success! Go to The
http://RealtionshipTools.com and get your free book, "Tools
to Online Dating" and become a successful dater with no bad dates!
Devlyn Steele ("America's Leading Life-Coach") has been a
public consultant and a private counselor for over 15 years. A
Cognitive
Therapist, Radio host and Columnist, Devlyn maintains a
thriving practice in Hollywood, where he counsels famous actors,
musicians and captains of industry. His new book, Relationship
Tools, will be available soon. You can hear Coach Steele live
every Tuesday on Love Beat Radio 1310 KXAM.com 7-9 PM. Arizona
Time. Visit his website at
http://www.toolstolife.com/
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